WTMFI Wednesdays #19 For Couples

Couple’s Retreat – Week 19

Like all ‘WTMFI Wednesdays’ this weeks sexual Information Over share has a theme, last weeks was ‘For The Boys’ (which I am still adding submissions to – including X’s answers so if yours aren’t up yet dont stress i’ll get them up) & this Week the theme is ‘Couple’s Retreat‘

Do you want to take part -> If you have your own blog just click the WTMFI icon below & participate. Don’t have a blog? You Can Answer by commenting! So let’s get to it…

“And I Will Always Love You”

This Week’s Questions

1. How did you and your partner meet? Did you know immediately that they were the one for you? How long after you met did you start dating?
2. What’s your favorite thing that your partner does? What’s your least favorite thing that your partner does?
3. What’s something you wish your partner would do more of, either sexually or non-sexually, or both?
4. What’s everyone’s thoughts on PDA’s (Public Displays of Affection)?
5. What’s the kinkiest thing you have done with your partner?

BONUS QUESTION:
Are you forever kind of people and believe that you are going to be together for the rest of your lives? Or are you more of a live by the moment type of couple, and you’ll see what each coming day is like?

My Answers:

So I may be in a relationship ‘grey Area’ currently with X, but after the best part of 15 years It’s the only relationship I can comment on, & despite its many faults, it’s a relationship that’s currently working. I should be able to add his answers when he gets home on the weekend.

How did you and your partner meet? Did you know immediately that they were the one for you? How long after you met did you start dating?

We first met – very briefly as I was walking into a house (that was actually an office) & he was walking out. It was a place called St George Youth Housing @ Brighton Le Sands in Sydney. It was 1995, I was 16, he was 19.

I ended up moving into a house under the housing project, whilst X was already living in another. He was paying his rent that first day I said ‘hi’ to him – I was wearing a dyed lace nightie or petticoat, whatever you call the things they used to wear under dresses, and knee high lace up boots. I was HOT! so hot that my simple ‘hi’ earnt me a slot in his spank bank before he even knew my name lol!

A month or two later my friend Crystal came to live in the same housing program and was in a unit (that was the downstairs half of a two level building) just up the rd from my place. We spent a lot of time hanging out & I got to know her room-mates Lena & Rachel. Rachel had a friend called Esther – who looked so much like me people thought we were identical twins – only she was quite overweight and my hip bones stuck out! She’s my Doppelganger.

Esther’s boyfriend Tom lived above Crystal in the same housing program. One Saturday we were hanging around out the front of the house & Tom’s flatmate was in the group. All hip & cool wearing a black beanie, dark glasses and a blue flanno tied around his waist, leaning back on the bonnet of his Car. It was X. The group of us spent the day hanging out.

Sunday I know I spent the night on the couch at X & tom’s – My flat mate creeped me out. We watched Gorilla’s in the mist together curled up on the couch. I think tuesday & wednesday were in his single bed.

Thursday he took me to his Mum’s for dinner – I was vegetarian and asked If I’d like some Salmon instead of chops – then upturned a can of Salmon onto my plate…hmm lol. We then went shopping at Miranda Fair. I bought a glow in the Dark ZVinyl copy of the first Foo Fighters single (that’s how long ago it was.)

That night we fucked like bunnies – the only time I’ve waited any period of time between meeting someone, kissing them & fucking them. He later admitted it was only meant to be a one night stand, but I moved in and never left!

Both Esther )whom X had previously had a one night stand with) & Rachel… Tom too for that matter all told me to stay away from him. Very glad I didn’t listen. No matter how bad things were or get – my son is worth it all.

What’s your favourite thing that your partner does? What’s your least favorite thing that your partner does?

Favourite: He works hard & supports our ‘family. Least Favourite: I don’t think the internet’s big enough to answer – but -> Not lifting the seat to pee, never picking up anything after himself & using a roll of toilet paper for blowing his nose & sticking the used bits into the core -> he will steal the roll thats on the holder rather than grabbing a fresh one as well which fucking drives me insane!

What’s something you wish your partner would do more of, either sexually or non-sexually, or both?

Be Passionate. Kiss Me, Hold Me, Love Me – & go down on me!  As for Non sexually – simply be kind considerate, respectful & grateful, but none of these things are going to happen with X.

What’s everyone’s thoughts on PDA’s (Public Displays of Affection)?

I love them – He hates them – therefore they don’t exist they never have…except I always kiss him goodbye when he goes on the road – but that’s more due to ritual at times rather than as a pda.

What’s the kinkiest thing you have done with your partner?
We’ve done pretty much everything together, so it’s hard to say which thing was the kinkiest as it depends on the type of kink! And we’ve tried an awful lot of different kinks – but perhaps the live web cam sex, or acting out his rape fantasy I guess. I’m pretty much up for anything so if he finds himself curious about something he just tells me – never had a threesome though. He loves the idea but I know his jealousy would destroy it.

BONUS QUESTION:

Are you forever kind of people and believe that you are going to be together for the rest of your lives? Or are you more of a live by the moment type of couple, and you’ll see what each coming day is like?

Considering that even when we do break up, we end up stuck with each other – I have to say the first. He used to be my forever, I wanted to grow old with him & never ever wouldv’e considered anything but. A few issues we had earlier this year, re-ocurring arguments and deep seeded resentments that perpetually cause the same arguments & I hear the same hurtful things weekend after weekend – Unless there’s some major shift I just can’t see it lasting.

But X & I are certainly not the spontaneous kind of couple we once were. 15 years Is a fucking long time when you are only 31!

It’s a rut to deep to drill our way out of I’m afraid. And I’m sick of being hurt by his words as well as his actions – Im sure he’d say the same about me though. We stick together for our son, and I doubt that we will put up with each other once he leaves home.

So that’s it – the somewhat depressing truth about X & I – it is what it is.

Violet xx

PS – don;t forget you too can take part, if you dont have a blog you can comment on this post or email me your answers.