To My Best Friend
If it wasn’t for you I would’ve been totally lost these past few weeks. Every time I screw something up or need something you’ve been there for me and for my boy as well.
You are kind, giving, supportive and loving, everything I’ve always wanted and needed in a best friend. You talk to me you share your self and your worries with me, which to me is a huge compliment as to the strength of our friendship. You also listen, you pay attention to me rather than being dismissive, you offer me un-conditional love and support, forgiving my shortcomings no matter how much they might annoy you.
You are like a second mum to my boy, your kids are just like his siblings. Your home is like our second home. After having a total frien-emy for so many years your friendship is like a cool breeze that really lifts me up. You were the first person to reach out to me when I was here and all alone, lost in this town and my life, I will never forget that.
I know how hard it must be getting used to sharing friends with your fantabulous girlfriend, but I do truly love you both, I love the pair of you equally and could never choose between you. I sense you may be somehow feeling inferior, or that she is somehow a better person than you, neither of which are true. You are each individuals, two separate people who compliment each other perfectly. Neither of you girls is better than the other and I really really couldn’t ever choose one of you over the other. So Please don’t ask me to.
If your feeling unsure or filled with worry I’m here for you, I will listen and love and be supportive, but I never could choose one of you over the other. I can tell you all the reasons I love you, all the wonderful things you’ve done for me and all the ways you’ve brought happiness to my life, but I cannot choose between you.
It’s not fair to ask me to choose which one of you I think is the better friend, as no matter how I answer I’m going to hurt one of you – something I’d never ever want to do. The 3 of us have a slightly alternative paradigm going on, which I LOVE as much as I love you, but part of what makes it perfect is that we are all equal. I enjoy it when it’s just me and you, just as I do when we are all together. I want to assure you of the equality, as I’m presuming you asked me to choose because you think I wouldn’t chose you. But the truth is that I choose to refuse to choose.
I love you and no matter how much I love someone else it won’t ever lessen how much love I have for you. One candle’s light does not dim when it shares its flame with another, rather the warmth and light intensifies. That is how I see the three of us.
All my Love V xx
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