A break in the drought

I have a confession to make… For the majority of this year I’ve not had sex. It almost broke me. It might not seem to be that big of a deal, but for a girl who has sex on her mind almost 24/7 a three month long, continuous drought is a bit of a major deal.

I haven’t seen, let alone slept with -B since the beginning of the year and the tenuous relationship I tried to delicately piece together mid year fell apart in a spectacular fashion (although I must confess I didn’t mention it as I had a feeling that that particular person wouldn’t be in my life for very long).

Finally, after months of longing and even a few orgasmic dreams where I quite literally woke up having an orgasm (I shit you not) I have managed to break the drought and in quite spectacular fashion.

The who doesn’t matter as they certainly won’t be in my life for very long but it was out of this world fantastic!

It started with a spray can of creamy icing and went on to include the nJoy Eleven and my super strong mystic wand vibrator. He was quite the nipple connoisseur, he could do things with his tongue that no other partner I’ve been with could ever equal. I swear he nearly made me cum via his mouth on my nipple alone. It was a good, long, hard fuck involving a torrential squirting orgasm and the resulting huge puddle on the bed, ending with a mind jolting, bone shaking, screaming orgasm that I’m sure must’ve woken the neighbours. It left every single cell of my body buzzing, even the tip of my nose felt like it had pins and needles. Fucking rare but fucking awesome.

I’m almost sad to know I won’t get to have the same experience time and time again, but I’m in no state to even consider a relationship and he’s one of those take everything or take nothing kind of guys. None of this friends with benefits or no strings attached stuff will work for him, and nothing else will work for me. But then again you know what they say about mice & men….

Anyway the drought is over, at least for now and I’m going back to bed…

To -B or not to -B

Decisions Decisions

Recently I’ve been considering getting myself a brand new FWB – or Friend With Benefits for those not up to date with the terminology.  It’s around 12 weeks since I last got to see my previous FWB, the one I fondly call -B, whilst I find it hard to believe that it’s been so god damn long, it really has been a long 12 weeks or so and discovering he had met a wonderful new woman that’s now his girlfriend was kinda difficult, but the entire time I’ve been longing for one last night with him. The opportunity to explore and experience things we never quite got around to. If I knew the last time I was with him was going to be ‘The LAST time’ I probably would’ve let go of my inhibitions a lot more and just gone wild.

At the same time I’ve revived enough of a connection with another guy whom I met online months ago – I think I’ll call him Tim, Enough so that he invited me to come and spend the weekend with him. An invite which I accepted on the proviso that X came home this weekend in order to leave me the car, thus giving me a way to go visit him. He offered to come visit me, even said I was more than welcome to bring my son. This won’t be happening, but I get along with him pretty well, he’s fun and full of life and maybe just what I need. Even if things go amazingly well I can’t see myself in an actual relationship with ANYONE at this point in time, It would certainly start out as just a fuck buddies kind of thing, most likely with much less of an emotional tie than what I’ve had with -B

After discovering -B was going to be home alone without his girl over the weekend I was already scheming how I could go about squeezing seeing him into my visit with Tim. I was thinking of luring -B in to some kind of platonic meeting, something like watching the footy at the pub or some other activity along those lines. All in the hope that I could turn it into a sexual rendezvous Figuring If I slept with -B I could get over my stupid shy nervousness enough to be able to relax and have a good time with Tim (It just happens that they live almost on top of each other, about 2 hours inland from me).

I had already discussed the possibility of a one last time, top secret, on the side liaison with -B a few weeks ago after some rather steamy cyber sex. On Monday he texted me in regards to some porn links I’d sent him. Over Tuesday & Wednesday this led to a heavy and hot to and fro of txt messages, or sexting. On Wednesday he made more than one reference to the fact he was all alone at home and incredibly horny, saying that if I had the desire to have another night filled with Benefits I was more than welcome to visit him and take total advantage of him!

I could’ve smashed something, here was the guy I’ve been day dreaming about fucking for months, offering me free, no strings attached sex and because X had chucked a stupid tantrum, leaving me car-less I couldn’t have what I’ve been longing for for so very long.

Yesterday there was a lot more sexting, followed up by msn chat that led to cyber sex, which in turn it evolved in to phone sex. With a pretty loose yet definite decision that I will spend Monday night fucking him senseless. I was certain to ask whether or not he was sure he wanted to, I wouldn’t want him spending the night with me if it would make him feel guilty afterwards. Also it will only happen under the proviso that no one is to know, the last thing I want is for my actions to hurt someone else. I already feel a little guilty for doing what I’ve already done with him over the past few days. I don’t want to hurt the new GF, but at the same time… Well he was mine first!!

So I find myself in a position where I am being offered that one more night, the exact thing I’ve been dreaming of for 3  months… Yet I am having some doubts, actually quite a few doubts, so I figure why not voice my concerns and get your feedback.

His tongue is magical, his cock spectacular and his skills are out of this world. It’s him I think of whenever I’m getting myself off. I’ve always regretted not letting go and fully expressing myself sexually with him and hope this ‘one last time’ will rectify this. I just don’t know if I should? I’m also worried I’ll clam up and get overly shy and not achieve the experience I want to have with him. But I also think one last night with him will give me the chance to kind of ‘practise’ before I meet up with Tim, as well as the opportunity to do the things I wanted to do but didn’t get around to doing with -B, such things as Anal Sex, and showing him my new magnificent squirting powers!

So what should I do?

What would you do?

If you had the opportunity to revisit a past sexual escapade,  with the greatest fuck you’ve ever had, wouldn’t you want to do so?

Is it totally immoral for me to sleep with a guy whom I know has a girlfriend?

I need your feedback guys – just comment or email me at admin [At]  Screaming-Violet.com

These doubts feel like complete Whorage FAIL – but If I address them and do go through with it, I think I’ll come out ahead, ready to move onto Tim, the possible new FWB…

Violet xx

This & That

Latest & Greatest News in My Life

I’m still alive & kicking – well kinda!

Haven’t been around much online lately, real life’s been getting in the way of my cyberlife. I haven’t even logged in to Twitter lately to see what everyone’s been up to & whats going on in the world… I know it’s sacrilegious!!

I managed to get my left and right feet completely confused and missed the bottom step as I walked out of the supermarket & went ‘SPLAT’ like a starfish all over the footpath, groceries everywhere, coke bottles exploding and bread getting squashed. I’m sure it would’ve been a total sight.

According to the incredibly rude and dis-interested Doctor I didn’t manage to break or fracture anything, but the girls don’t agree. My Ankle has swollen up and looks somewhat like a squashed football, turning various shades of purple & blue. If only I had a camera and could show you – It’s kinda pretty in an ugly kind of way.

Anyway I think I may have mentioned a possible new FWB on twitter about a week ago. He’s actually quite sweet and nice, just a shame he doesn’t live closer. I met him online a few months ago, we got along well. He has great taste in music, is laid back and cruisey and there’s no doubt we’d hang out as friends all the time if he lived near by. Anyway a month or so after I met him, long before I could get my act together to go meet him some other woman snapped him up – my timing always sucks!! lol

Now another month or two later she spat him back out all chewed up and broken hearted.  Some women fucking piss me off – I know not all relationships work out, but what she did really stinks. Waking up one morning to say ‘I don’t love you anymore’ and then showing him the door. Oh well, her fucking loss I guess.

It’s not the deep seeded kind of connection I felt when I first met -B, but I doubt I’d ever feel quite that way about anyone else (There’s a huge long back story that started when I was 14 that made the whole thing with -B special) yet he makes me smile and laugh and feel somewhat special. But here’s the crux, I don’t want enough of a relationship to call anything committed, yet at the same time I know I’m never going to be able to just have totally anonymous sex with someone I’ve just barely met. Christ after months of fucking -B I never quite managed to let go and be as sexually uninhibited as I actually am, so can’t see it happening in a situation without any kind of emotional investment. Being insecure and having low self esteem coupled with I guess a negative self image can be quite inhibiting to ones sexual freedom.

I won’t be going anywhere for the next week or so due to my ankle & X taking the car just to be spiteful (Yet another massive fight with X last weekend) so I’ve got time to get to know him a little better and maybe even a chance to consult -B. Although I never let go physically with him, I can tell that guy anything, he’s like a rock sometimes. So that’s about it. I busted my ankle and am stuck high & dry & horny, hopefully this situation will resolve itself…..and soon.

Violet xx

Stealing the Stolen Sex Meme

Another Sex Meme – One that has been stolen time and time again

I found this Sex meme @ Sunday Stealing (a site who’s purpose is to  steal and repost memes) They stole it from someone who stole it from someone etc… You get the Idea ->Now I’m stealing it (please feel free to steal it yourself – Just link back to this page!!)

1. Is there anyone of your friends that you would ever consider having sex with?

Absolutely, more than one in fact, and that’s without including twitter friends.

2. Sex in the morning, afternoon or night?

Can’t I have it Morning Noon AND Night? – I’d have to choose afternoon, I’m always horny in the afternoon around 2-4pm

3. What side of the bed do you sleep on?

Which Ever side I end up On

4. Have you ever taken your clothes off for money?

Possibly, Not sure, but It’s kinda likely I have.

5. Have you ever had sex in the shower or the bath?

Yes to both

6. Do you watch/read pornography?

Yep,Yep, Yep & Yep see – sex via violet for the proof!

7. Do you want someone aggressive or passive in bed?

Far prefer someone aggressive over passive, but honestly like us to both be on about the same level, neither person taking the passive or aggressive, but admit to having been rather passive with -B

8. Do you love someone on your blogroll?

Um, no I don’t think so. Id fuck some of the people on my blogroll, but Love is far too strong a word.

9. Would you choose love or money?

Love – Money can be re earned, it’s flow is continuous, but Love – True Love…Is Worth Dying For

10. Your top three favourite kinks in bed?

I like it hard, I like it rough, and I like being used like a whore.

11. Has anyone ever gone beyond your personal line of respect sexually?

Sadly More than Once

12. Where is the most romantic place you have had sex?

probably the beach

13. Where is the weirdest place you have had sex?

hmm, thats a hard one, soccer fields, back alleys, lunch room, trucks, cars, and once in a moving vehicle.

14. Have you ever been caught having sex?

More than once!

15. Ever been to a bar just to get sex?

Met someone at a bar just to have sex with them – does that count?

16. Ever been picked up in a bar?

Yeah, few times. Which is odd for someone who became monogomous as a teenager

17. Have you ever kissed or had sex with someone of the same sex?

yes & yes

18. Had sex in a movie theater?

given hand jobs & blow jobs in a cinema, but never actually had sex

20. Had sex in a bathroom?

Well If I’ve had sex in a shower – it goes to say Ive done it in a bathroom.

21. Have you ever had sex at work?

Yes, multiple times, too many to count

22. Bought something from an adult store?

yes

23. Do you own any sex toys?

Umm, Yeah, a few!

24. Does anyone have naughty pics of you or are you on film?

Yes People have naughty Pics of me, I Once had sex and broadcast it on the net (Back in 1999 – it was a big deal back then.), I also had a heap of dirty pics on a disc that was stolen!  I was also filmed without my consent, without even any discussion – However I have an Image of him that is by far worse than me fucking him senseless – gotta love a waterbed Going Cowgirl Style.! And someone else has a video of me, not sure I’d call it sexual, but I trust that person not to abuse it.

25. Have you ever had sex with someone and called them the wrong name?

I don’t think so, but certainly have thought of someone else whilst with someone.

26. Do you think oral sex constitutes as a form of intercourse?

No, Intercourse is Intercourse, It Involves Penis In Vagina or Ass, mouths don’t count.

27. What’s your favorite sexual position?

Bent over, any form of  Doggy Style, but usually only come if I’m on top

28. What’s your favourite sex act?

At the moment Id have to say Anal, otherwise giving or receiving oral.

29. Have you ever had sex with more than one person at a time?

yes I have.

30. Ever Faked an Orgasm?

Who hasn’t??

So are you going to steal the Stolen Sex Meme from Me? Go On….I dare you to…Just link back to me or leave a comment so I can get my Voyeur on and check out your answers…

Violetxx

WTMFI Wednesday #22 All About Anal

Anal Explorations

“That’s Tight”

This Week’s Questions

1. What are your thoughts on anal sex? Have you ever had it?
2. Do you enjoy watching porn with anal sex?
3. If you’ve had anal sex, what was your first time like? If you haven’t had anal sex and want to, what do you hope for your anal sex experience?
4. Do you own any sex toys for anal penetration? If not, do you want to?
5. Do you always use condoms or do you sometimes allow bareback?

BONUS QUESTION:
What are your thoughts on society’s negative views of anal sex?

1.What are your thoughts on anal sex? Have you ever had it?

I’m pretty open So my thoughts on Anal… Well I’m certainly open to it, but it’s certainly something that it up to the individual. I’d written it off for years & years before I decided to give it another go.

I’ve only ever had Anal with One partner, but there was over a decade between the first period of time I when  was having Anal with him and the second time we tried, and since then I’ve lost count of the number of times we’ve done it. But the first time round it was rather painful to start with, probably because I was young, naive and doubt there was any lube involved. Second time round it’s all been intensely pleasurable because I knew exactly what I was doing & understood how it all worked thanks to Alexa and her blog the realprincessdiaries.com.

EDIT: turns out that Alexa isn’t real, or that she was just the persona of a creept perv who was eventually caught for pretending to be this yound 20-something, lesbian, high class escort, sexual studies doctorate student. So she’s crap but the information that was on her site was influential and pretty factual, but now gone since the author was caught out!

Education & understanding how my body works as well as what’s going on when you have Anal made it so much easier. I look back on my initial foray into anal & think ‘how naive’ Would you go about giving birth without understanding the physical process? Anal’s so much easier & therefore fun if you know whats going on.

For more on the what, Where And How to’s of Anal check Out these three great Posts from the Aforementioned Alexa. Start out With Preparing for your first Anal; If I had of read this all those years ago before I even tried having Anal sex I doubt there would’ve been any pain, discomfort or worry of any kind. Wether you are male or female I recommend you read it, even if it is only so that you have a better understanding of how it all works. Guys if you like the idea  of having Anal sex with a woman I suggest you bookmark it, It’s helped at least one of my mates to venture into previously uncharted territory.

Enema’s and More on Anal Sex is like the secondary level of your Anal education from Alexa

Even now, re-reading it after turning into a total butt slut, there’s much to learn on the subject and knowledge is power. What better power to have than sexual power, so even if you’ve been fucking your ass off for years you still just might learn something.These two are the Main Anal articles on her site, but there are plenty more Anal Sex Posts on her blog - If you want to try out Anal read as much as you can both on her site and others.

2.Do you enjoy watching porn with anal sex?

Yeah, I honestly do. But I enjoy anal immensely and I watch a lot of Double Penetration Porn, I guess because it’s number 1 on my Sexual Bucket List.

But it’s Also Anal Porn that bothers me the most. It is simply not safe to do ATM or Ass To Mouth, I hate that it makes it seem in anyway acceptable and that it gives some the impression that they can request to stick their dick in your mouth after it’s come out of your ass. Same goes with Vaginal sex after Anal. There’s all kinds of bacteria up your ass, stuff you really don’t want in your Vag, I can only imagine the kinds of infections that could lead to. If you want to do Anal then stick it in another hole, wrap that dick in a condom for fuck’s sake.

3. If you’ve had anal sex, what was your first time like? If you haven’t had anal sex and want to, what do you hope for your anal sex experience?

The very, very first time I had Anal was about 15 years ago when I was 16. I must admit it was painful and only slightly pleasurable. I was doing it because he wanted to. The thought of needing, let alone using lube never crossed my mind, If we had used lube I doubt it would’ve been painful. If I knew than what I know know in regards to Anal sex I’m sure it would’ve been a hit & there wouldn’t have been a decade & a half between Anal Adventures.

I was scared to try it after my son was born, sadly haemorrhoids often develop during pregnancy as well as during the pushing part of the birthing experience. I got off pretty lightly in that department, but still it was an issue in my mind (I’ve found my mind is sometimes my worst enemy when it comes to sexual pleasure)

I also suffer from Endometriosis, a condition where the lining of the uterus (the Endometrium) decides to take up residence in places it really shouldn’t. My case is on the extreme end with it gluing all my pelvic organs together and deciding to migrate to both my lungs and the inside of my rectum and bowel. Don’t ask me how the heck it gets in such places, I just know it’s there and it causes me all sorts of issues. I was really worried about tearing things that might be stuck together, but some logical thought made me realise if something can come out without tearing anything, surely something could go back in.

So with Education, Information, Awareness of my own body & the all important lube, second time round Anal has been nothing but an absolute joy.

4. Do you own any sex toys for anal penetration? If not, do you want to?

I do, I have a stunning crystal Delights Plug I scored out of my sister, and also really enjoy my Glass Wand for Anal Play. When it comes to Anal Play with sex toys the toy MUST have some sort of flared base to ensure that it doesn’t slip inside – which would lead you to an embarrassing trip to the hospital to have it removed. Similar warning regarding Large toys and Anal Play. Unlike the Vagina the Rectum Doesn’t really stretch. You can gradually stretch what feels comfortable being inserted, but it isn’t going to stretch in length. Respect that fact, and the fact that pain means something is not right and you shouldn’t have any problems.

5. Do you always use condoms or do you sometimes allow bareback?

In no way do I recommend or condone having un-safe sex, especially un-safe Anal sex as there is a higher risk of contracting an STD such as HIV via Anal sex than Vaginal Sex. However most often My Anal Adventures have all been bareback – but also with the same monogamous partner I was with for 15 years. If ever I were to have Anal, or any form of penetrative sex with someone else there would most certainly be a condom involved.

Second time round we were using condoms for Anal until I was comfortable with it (they seemed to cause less friction & discomfort on entry), but that soon ended. It’s also important to use condoms with sex toys used for Anal Play unless they are able to be fully disinfected and sterilised like glass.

Bonus Question:

What are your thoughts on society’s negative views of anal sex?

I don’t really give it much consideration to be truly honest.But maybe the fact that the vast majority see it as being so taboo that makes it even more alluring and of course fun.

If you Want more Info On Anal Other Articles that may be of interest or assistance include:

New To Anal Sex - on the Frisky Blog – This article on Anal includes important information regarding the two different sphincter muscles and how they work. Kind of important to Understand so you don’t go hurting yourself by trying to go to fast, or trying to insert anything too big.

Anal sex from the library @ Rotten.com

And as much as it pains me to link to this site, they do have a rather good guide to Anal Sex Toys and Anal Play from the site that has become known for being the sex shop you can’t trust

Unless you are thinking about some full on Anal play I wouldn’t recommend you read this Article, but if you are looking to push your Anal Boundaries, this post could save you from serious damage & in extreme cases death. Sometimes Anal Play can go too far

My Sexual Bucket List

The Sexual Things I must do before I die

I saw a list on someone’s blog of 12 sexual experiences they wanted to have before they died. With a browsing history as long, vast and colourful as mine I’m not surprised that I can’t find the blog again. However I do know what’s on my personal ‘Sexual Bucket List’. A list of sexual acts &/or experiences I want to have, experience or explore before I die. I started out with 12 Things, but my bucket list stretched to 15 16, it may even grow in the future, but for now this is my List:

#1 Is to have a MFM threesome.I’ve taken part in a few different FMF threesomes, all of which were years & years ago, but all incredibly fun & pleasurable. I’ve even done the FFF style threesome, I just haven’t had the opportunity to participate in the MFM version of a threesome.

X Loves the idea, It’s his #1 turn on, I’m just not sure if he could cope with the jealousy that could possibly brew in the aftermath. (I don’t know If I want anything to do with him after the bullshit tantrum he threw on the weekend that ended up in a fistfight, let alone wanting to fuck him again though.) But if ever I do change my opinion of him, I’ve found the 2^nd M for the mix… or at least I think I have, not 100% sure he was serious. It’s hard to know whether or not to believe a man when he’s thinking with his dick rather than his brain – but if & when I do organise it, you will be the first to know.

I also want to experience double penetration, it’s my true number one not yet experienced fantasy, but as it requires a MFM threesome for it to eventuate it gets thrown in with MFM at #1.

#2 It’s a little Vanilla, but I want to have sex in water. I’m a Pisces and have always been at one with water, I just haven’t gotten around to having sex in the water yet. I’ve done it on beaches (North Cronulla – like in Puberty Blues) and Even the Sandhills (where Mad Max was filmed) I Just never made it to the water. I’ve heard all the awful stories of getting sand where you don’t want it, but am happy to settle for still water like a swimming pool, or a lake.

#3 Despite having slept with more than a few females I’ve never had the experience of using a double ended dildo, allowing both female partners to be penetrated by the other simultaneously. I love Pussy and could spend a year, licking, tasting, eating pussy, touching it, playing with it… – I Love all things pussy! Grinding against each other, clit to clit, scissors style feels great, Id love to feel that mixed with the sensation of penetration. I’m sure it has to be the ultimate feeling when it comes to girl on girl fucking – maybe someone slightly more experience can tell me if I’m wasting my lesbian dreams on an unsatisfying act or not.

#4 Is to give someone their un-realised fantasy. A little like a sexual fantasy Genie. Everyone has fantasies, most of us have at least one un-conventional one, one that our partner or partners have no interest in. Before I die I’d like to help make someone’s unrealised fantasy a reality. I imagine someone who’s had this deep seeded longing for years and years, one that has always been denied. For some reason when I think of this one I envision a married man despite the fact I’ve sworn never ever to fuck with another man whose married¹. Guys a bit like the UnWanted Husband, one who’s been used, maybe abused and just ignored sexually, those who if they are married the ‘cheating’ damage has already been well and truly done – I’d like to give at least one person their deepest, dirtiest denied desire. Just as long as my actions couldn’t lead to breaking up a family. I think I could even get some kind of BDSM kink on for this one despite my general dislike of such, If it got the person in question off I’d be glad to do pretty much whatever – just no two girls one cup shit!

#5 Another is to get paid for sex, or rather have sex for money as I think the two can differ at times. As a teenager I always wanted to be a prostitute, I guess it was some kind of romantic notion caused by pretty woman((I also wanted to be a nun after watching ‘Brides of Christ’ and longed to marry Marky Mark – long before he dumped the funky bunch and became a hot movie star.. I have strange notions at times!)) and although I was propositioned once or twice, I never slept with anyone or performed any sexual act explicitly for money. But I pretty much gave it away for free to any guy who gave it a try. The reason I didn’t take the offering of $$$ when propositioned was because the guys made me want to puke,I really disliked the idea of not being able to choose who I fucked so I never became a professional teenage whore. I did accept $100 off of X for a blow job, but don’t think he really counts. But with this $105k debt looming over me, I may get to cross number 5 off my list sooner than I had expected

#6 I’d like to Be a Cam Girl. I would probably prefer to try being a cam girl before I turned to out & out prostitution. I’ve been a phone sex operator before and think that becoming a cam girl is the natural next step from there. I’ve had sex whilst people watched via web cam, so don’t think it would be a big deal to me once I got my head in the right place. My personal self-esteem and body Image both suck, something I’m working hard to improve via things such as writing this blog and participating in things like The Scavenger Hunt & Wanton Wednesdays, being a Cam girl would be a HUGE step towards my goal of loving myself & my body. If & when I do decide to go in that direction – again I’ll be sure to let you know.

#7 I want to either make another woman squirt, or teach a guy how to make me do it, so he can go on to teach another woman It has to be more fun with a partner than it is on my own and it could be teamed up with my #12 and kill two birds with one stone.

#8 Have someone eat or lick gooey food stuffs off of my skin &/or do the same to someone else. I know it isn’t really out there, but again I’ve never tried it. Same with Sex on the Kitchen bench. I’ve wanted to have Kitchen Bench sex since I was way to young to be thinking about it. The closest I ever came was with my childhood sweetheart, but for some reason we never actually had sex despite the fact neither of us were virgins…We still don’t know why we never fucked! I do have this one very particular fantasy regarding -B & my Kitchen bench, but seriously doubt that will ever eventuate.

#9 Sell my Underwear Online. I hate the word ‘panties’ or any derivative there of, but after being with someone with such a fetish It truly rubbed off on me, anyone who’s seen my tumblr feed at sexviaviolet.tumblr.com can attest to this. Considering I’m down to my last $50 this is quite likely to eventuate… if anyone wants them

#10 Have anonymous, or close to anonymous sex with someone, by that I mean no blind date style anonymous sex – But within hours of first meeting someone, I’d just like one more good, no real names, one night stand before I die…please

#11 To get really drunk and fuck like I have no Inhibitions preferably with someone other than X or -B.

Although I don’t really have any inhibitions when I’m with X, there’s so many things he’s picky about that make being truly free sexually impossible, i.e.: having to have a shower before we have sex, even if I’ve just showered, and even then he has a huge issue with going down on me, I forget the last time he did. No doggy style sex because he can’t stand the sight off my ass hole – Because My ass hole is one of those darkly pigmented ones he deems it too dirty to look at… But he’s happy to stick his dick in that ass and couldn’t care less if he pulled it out covered in shit (I know this because I asked him about it on the weekend.

Writing this makes me realise just how much he has stifled the true me.

And although I said it has to be someone other than -B, I’d love to be that way with him, he kinda deserves it after all the shit he’s put up with from me.

#12 Very very unrealistic, but I’d love to participate in some form of ‘glory hole’ style kinkiness, but I’d much prefer to be bent over and fucked than be on my knee’s giving bj’s..but I did say it was unrealistic, possibly impossible, but fuck it, it’s my list.

#13 It’s my dirtiest darkest item on my list… To live out my own one truly ruley dirty fantasy, or dirty sexual act rather. I’ve always wanted to pee in a guys mouth – don’t know quite why, maybe because I hate X and the idea of being able to be dominant and kind of abusive to him turns me on. That’s my usual go to fantasy when I need that extra push in order to cum. I imagine standing up whilst he’s on his knees, my hand tightly mingled in his hair whilst he goes down on me and I get to kind of forcibly fuck his face. Eventually pulling his head away from my pussy and peeing all over him. I’d equally like to squirt in a guys mouth, so either or, not too fussed, but I’d like to do one of those before I die. I’ve played all kinds of ‘Water Sports’ with him, both giving and receiving…Just never in his mouth²

#14 Finally…because I forgot about it two more recent sex toy items, I want to try the club vibe from ohmibod out during a Mosh Pit and fuck someone with the feel doe or similar non harness style strap on cock (is it still a strap on cock if it doesn’t actually ‘strap on’?) be it guy or girl I’d really like to try that thing out. I wonder if it feels as good as it looks, or if it is as hard to use as I’ve read. I’ve got plenty of other sex toy hopes & dreams, but there’s so many they require their own bucket List. I may even write that list today, I’m very bored and incredibly lazy today.

#15 And to finish… the most ridiculous of all. I’ve always wanted to have sex in a mosh pit, no matter how ridiculous, impossible & painful it could possibly be. Music turns me on, the higher the volume the wetter I get. I’ve had backstage sex, but never crowd side. I’m happy to die without fulfilling #15, but it’s a fantasy & deserves to be here no matter how impossible it would be in practice.

But wait I forgot one… #16 I’ve always wanted to fuck using a great sex swing. Even at my thinnest most anorexic self I wasn’t exactly light as a feather, I’d love a great sex swing so I could get into all kinds of weird and wonderful positions. A regular swing was plenty fun, I imagine a sex swing would be infinitely better, I even have the perfect basement for it – & trust me In Australia Basements are incredibly rare.. It’s really just a big area attached to the side of the garage- but the big Metal beams that are all painted a shiny deep red make it feel perfect for a sexual dungeon.

So what about you?

Do you have a Sexual Bucket List? Any Sexual experiences you want to have before you die? Any act you wish to do before you leave this life?

If you do, publish your List and leave a comment with the link to it . It doesn’t have to be 16 things, or even 12, It can be as many as you like… It’s your list. If you do & you link it back to here I’ll get off my lazy ass and make a cute little sexual bucket list button for you to use (I’m just being very very Lazy today)

The Voyeur in me would love to know what’s on your list.

Violet xx

1. engaged or somehow otherwise invested in a long term relationship, especially if children are involved [↩]
2. Stupid picky bastard – sorry I’ve really got my hate on for him today [↩]

News Screws & Reviews

All the Things going on Behind the Scenes In my World

[originally posted June 27th 2010]

[sorry about the post title, but I have a thing for stupid rhymes]

This weekend started off pretty boring and mundane. But by Saturday night I was with FWB, holed up in a great Hotel room screwing his brains out – I’m working on a post about that.

Sunday sucked, Although the goodbye kiss was sweet. I’m considering whether or not to ask FWB exactly what it is he wants from me??? I’ve been thinking that having friends with benefits is almost like having your own personal free prostitute (I do love the idea of being a professional whore, but doubt my exploits will get me boosted up out of the amateur leagues of Whore-dom!) and wonder what kind of professional service he’d like the most. The quick suck and fuck? Or a decent GFE (Girl Friend Experience)? Even something in between. I just have to work out how to ask him. Or Maybe Just take out an ad On Craigslist for a 3r

I know that Z would certainly choose the suck & fuck option, but never quite know which direction FWB will go when given more than one choice. However after a few little things the other night I think he’d lean towards the GFE side of things. I’ll to get that post finished before the weekend. Along with the 55 million others that are still in draft form.

In Other Breaking News In the World Of Violet…..

I’m Now Officially a Sex Toy Reviewer

I’m pretty sure I can say that considering I got my first Package of Sex Toys to Review delivered to my door this evening -> All thanks to the lovely Nicole from AdultSexToys.com

Whoo Hooo!

I finally got my Hands on the OhMiBod I’ve been physically craving… And I’ve lost the usb cord for the iPod! Such a Violet Thing to do.

My Celebrity Crush has a Sex Video

But as I decided to take the moral high ground (after earlier taking the much lower path) I’ve removed everything regarding said celebrity Crush’s sex video. And seriously apologise for referring to it, let alone originally publishing Images from it!

And well…..that’s it

Goodbye B

I just lost the B from my FWB.

[originally Posted June4th 2010]

I’m happy for him, but am feeling seriously bummed and can’t work out why. Or rather I can’t rationalise the reason I’m feeling bummed. Perhaps because I know I can’t replace him. Because even after…like 6 months I was still sexually shy with him.

After over coming my whore #FAIL (which I was spurred to do after Wonder Whore weighed in on the situation) I ended up spending a pretty decent night with my FWB last week I’ve been dying to write about it, However I simply couldn’t bring myself to write about it without his permission. I’ve got pretty strong morals and try to have clear boundaries (at least with him I have boundaries, I won’t call him unless I’ve texted him first etc) and writing about having sex with him … Well I wouldn’t want to violate his privacy, even though he’s obviously anonymous, I’d still be scared he would see it and feel violated. Even if he never saw it I just couldn’t. I may have mentioned him, but never any of the juicy details….

So I finally send him a text message to ask if he’s be open to the idea of me writing about having sex with him. Takes him a while to respond, which is fair enough, It’s kind of a hard question to ask.

Turns out he’s open to me writing about having sex with him, but I won’t be having sex with him anymore… He went and got himself a girlfriend! I’m really happy for him, yet I’m bummed. But Can’t figure out why I’m bummed, or at least rationalise Why I feel bummed.

I believe in open relationships, Even if we were more than friends I wouldn’t have had an issue with him having sex with others. I’m not jealous. But I’m bummed… Why The Fuck am I so bummed When I’m so happy for him?

He’s a great guy, I don’t have the ability to be in a real relationship with anyone, so why do I feel so fucking down?

I guess I’m not as great as I thought I was, in the sense of detaching my heart from sex. Yet I didn’t want to pursue a relationship with him, I simply wanted to fuck him senseless. Perhaps it’s because he ended it rather than me? Am I really that shallow? Or is it because I regret holding back and not fully exploring the things I wanted to. I really, really wanted to feel him blow down my throat and anal… I wanted to have anal with him. (If I could have anal with him I could have anal with anyone.)

I seriously do #FAIL when it comes to being a whore. I will get around to writing about that night, along with the many others, but I just can’t do it right now. I can’t write about having great sex with him whilst I’m still grieving for that sex.

Perhaps I’m so bummed because in the past when mates have met new girlfriends, the new girlfriends get jealous and are threatened by their boyfriends having female friends. If that happened I think I really would be crushed.

Anyway I’m going to go hide under my doonah watch the Amazing Race and get the fuck over it.

I wish they had craigslist for the area I live in, I need a new B!

Violet xx

Would You Rather – WTMFI Week#20

“WOULD YOU RATHER…”

WTMFI Wednesdays Week #20

I’ve been putting off answering this weeks Questions, to say they make me squirm is an understatement… As my Answers depend on the situation, or rather the sexual partner. My answer’s relating to X are the polar opposite to what I would answer regarding -B. A conundrum that’s spun me into a bit of a sexual existential dilemma, but it is one that has been brewing since I had to say goodbye to -B (or at least the B part of the friendship) and I have started to consider what I want out of a FWB or NSA sexual relationship. I’ve even got X to the point where he is liking the idea of the MFM threesome more & more, yet I really am confused and don’t know what I want.

The other afternoon I had a long chat with one of my bestest mates, an ex from a million years ago. My one true love lol. He was that perfect summer romance,, a guy that truly treated me like a queen until the day he had to return home. I’ll tell you more about him one day, I’m hoping to get to see him sooner or later..anyway back to our discussion. It was a bit of a loveless sex Vs sexless love kind of debate. We both came down on the loveless sex side of things, but with conditions… No we won’t be having sex together…EVER – our time came & went and it is a beautiful love bubble I never wish to taint (although neither of us know why we never did fuck?? we certainly weren’t virgins)

I guess I’m a bit used to loveless sex as I don’t feel the love in the sex with X, nor was there love with -B, but that’s not to say I’m crossing the possibility of love off  my list of future hopes, It just isn’t a priority right now. However I do like to love the person I’m with whilst I’m fucking them – which is one of the conditions my perfect summer love mate & I decided upon.

Loveless sex is great, but you do need to know the person, you don’t need to be friends, but as long as you know them sexually & are comfortable to express yourself sexually then all is good. (I never got to that able to let go & really express myself point with -B). It needs to be something more than a random fuck, a one night stand or even just a booty call, but certainly less attachment than even a casual dating style relationship.

When I’m with someone  like, let’s say it’s an overnight type interlude – during that night I want to be able to love that person, touch them, fondle them, kiss them, spoil them, please them and really get them off. I guess you could liken it to a prostitute offering a GFE or ‘Girl Friend Experience’ style service to a regular client. Actually Yeah, that’s exactly what I want…

Someone I can spend time with holed up in a hotel room, loving them, fucking them,ordering room service with them & maybe even watching a movie together. Both completely wrapped up in each other…until check out time when we go our separate ways and return to our normal lives. Staying in touch with an email here or there, or a text or two every few days to a week, all depending on your combined schedules. I like the idea of staying in touch simply to drive each other wild so that the moment you see one another you just want to rip their clothes off.

So if there’s any guy out there somewhere between say Newcastle and Lismore & you’re interested…email me lol. Anyway back to our usual WTMFI Programming…

This Week’s Questions

1. Would you rather have quick sex OR very long sex (don’t include foreplay!)?
2. Would you rather you orgasm every time, OR your partner orgasming every time (only one of you gets to cum)?
3. Would you rather have a super intense and completely meaningless sex session OR an average, intimate and deeply personal sex session?
4. Would you rather have more foreplay and less sex OR less foreplay and more sex?
5. Would you rather roll over and fall asleep after sex OR take a shower and then cuddle?

BONUS QUESTION:
Would you rather dirty talk such as, “I love your tight/big pussy/cock. I’m gonna fuck you/pound me because you’re/I’m such a whore!” OR soft, gentle and romantic talk such as, “You are the most wonderful person in the world. I love that you do this. I want you so bad.”?

My Answers;

Would you rather have quick sex OR very long sex (don’t include foreplay!)?

Well If we aren’t including foreplay…I guess I’d say a good hard quick fuck – with lots of foreplay… at least during the week with really long, leisurely sex on the weekends. I want it all!

Would you rather you orgasm every time, OR your partner orgasming every time (only one of you gets to cum)?

Definitely them. It’s important to me that they get off, as long as I get that craving for being penetrated fed, I’m happy not to cum.

Would you rather have a super intense and completely meaningless sex session OR an average, intimate and deeply personal sex session?

This is the question that caused me the greatest dilemma. I’d have to say the super intense but completely meaningless sex at the moment, but if I were in love I’d want that deep connecting, souls entwined, don’t realise 2 hours have passed passionate personal sex.

Would you rather have more foreplay and less sex OR less foreplay and more sex?

The more foreplay and less sex, I’ve been doing the ‘skip the foreplay, please just fuck me’ style sex for far too long so I have to choose more foreplay.

Would you rather roll over and fall asleep after sex OR take a shower and then cuddle?

Either, I’m truly not fussed, but I do enjoy being able to just go ‘aahhh’ afterwards & having a smoke.

BONUS QUESTION:

Would you rather dirty talk such as, “I love your tight/big pussy/cock. I’m gonna fuck you/pound me because you’re/I’m such a whore!” OR soft, gentle and romantic talk such as, “You are the most wonderful person in the world. I love that you do this. I want you so bad.”?

Can I have a bit of both? I’m a filthy dirty talker at times, but saying I love what you are doing to me, I need you so bad – well It doesn’t require love to say such things… so Im up for all of it, or even silence.

I think I’m going through a very experimental phase in my sexual life right now. Just wish I was exploring such things with someone I didn’t know so well. After half your life it does tend to become boring & bland no matter how great the sex is.

So after all that, what do I really want? I want an exact replica of -B, but maybe one who lives closer and talks more lol

Violetxx

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I’ve had my We Vibe2 for quite a while now, and In that time I’ve managed to amass quite a collection of toys. Toys I absolutely love, but none come close to the We Vibe2, not even the toys that have recently made me squirt.

Why Is The We Vibe2 So Great?

Start Out by Reading my First Review Of the We Vibe2 – Then come back so I can fill you in some more… You back yet? ok – so here’s the deal…

It has single handedly revolutionised my sex life. And although I am yet to give a toy a bad review (don’t worry there is a bad review coming up soon) I simply cannot Scream the Praises of the We Vibe2 Loudly enough.

Before this Power Packed Purple Princess (❤alliterations!) my sex life with X was bland boring bad, orgasms were few and far between, and If I got lucky enough to have one they were far from earth shattering. NOW – I get a good old big double OO each and every time we have sex.It used to be him on top, me on top & feeling pressure to cum before he did and I pretty much psyched myself out every single time.

Not all women are the same, some of us have clitoral Orgasms whilst others have G-spot Orgasms and the lucky few Get to have the good Old Double O’s. I’ve long been a the clitoral type of woman, I’d have to be on top in order to get off, yet rarely did I get there.

With the We Vibe2 I have had absolutely Earth Shattering, Back Arching, Screaming Orgasm’s each and every time We have used it. No matter what Position we are in. He too is having much more intense Orgasms but it’s also the simple things about the We Vibe 2 that I love.

Like it has brought back the joy & intimacy of missionary position. Even without it’s vibrations turned on It creates that extra oomph and pressure so I can grind against his Pelvic bone as hard as I want without having the intimacy disconnected by flipping him over.

The We Vibe2 - How It is Used

As you can see the We Vibe2 Really is the sex toy worn whilst making Love.

The We Vibe2 Improved our Relationship

the #1 thing about the We Vibe2 is that it truly is a couples vibrator – the one that has brought me and X back together closer than we have been before – which is pretty big considering we are coming up on 15 years next month. It’s increased both of our sex drives, It’s certainly never Failed to deliver, but most Importantly it’s turned what was once just ‘fucking’ back into making love.

For me, my mind plays a huge part in my enjoyment of any sexual activity and sadly I was so focussed On actually getting off I would psych myself out & not even enjoy the sex. The We Vibe2 has taken that pressure off of me, and X too. I can enjoy what we are doing as I know I’m going to Orgasm at least once, if not more before he’s finished. This peace of mind Is one of the Key elements Why the We Vibe2 works so well for us.

It has helped me to let go and we have had the opportunity to explore so much more of each other, something we haven’t done in years. It’s re vamped our way of having sex and the romance behind it, stopping that ‘just going through the motions’ very mechanical sex you start having after being together for such a long time.

I won’t tell you that any sex toy no matter how amazing it is will heal a bad relationship, but I would highly recommend it to any couple stuck in a bit of a sexual rutt.

More Great Things about the We Vibe2

It’s fun to wear both in and outside of the house – this aspect of it certainly has revved up both of our sex lives. For me it obviously physically stimulates me whilst being worn, but it gets in my mind too. How ‘naughty’ I am, the small thought in the back of my mind of ‘I could get caught’ only ramps it up a notch. For him, just knowing I’m wearing it sends his mind & body racing. Try sitting across from one another whilst out at dinner… It’s like the idea of wearing no underwear out in public – but On Nitrous.

As It is non-porous Body Safe Silicone It is safe for Anal Play, However I only insert the G spot end Inside my butt as the small invisible hole where it plugs in for recharging may (although I do doubt it) harbour some small amount of bacteria that I wouldn’t want to breed and end up inside my vagina. I actually quite like it for Anal Play & want a second We Vibe2 so that I can have it ‘all’ and he can have the pleasurable vibrations above and below him.

In my first review I wrote of using it on him during Oral, Even now, 6 weeks later it still has the same ‘lightning bolt’ effect on him. I thought that over time (6 weeks is a long time for X) he would grow bored of it, but that hasn’t been the case, he may even love it more than I do.

Before the We Vibe2 entered the house it was always me begging him for sex, however the opposite is now true. I really couldn’t be happier.It certainly doesn’t hurt that both of us can use it solo as well as together. It’s for ‘WE’ not just for me.

In summation I guess what I’m saying is that it was the Best $140 I’ve ever spent. In my humble ol’ opinion the We Vibe2 isn’t just a sex toy, or only a vibrator, But really a marital aid – yeah I know that’s the PC or religious may to refer to a sex toy, but seriously it has had such a positive impact on our lives that I feel it is a ‘marital aid’. It has ensured me of an Orgasm every single time & has brought us closer emotionally, romantically and of course sexually. I say fuck the relationship counselling, just buy a We Vibe2! lol.

But seriously, what would you prefer a carton of smokes or a lifetime of Orgasms? The Latest release Ps3, Xbox or Wii game – or a sex toy you can share?

The We Vibe2 is the Ultimate Sex Toy as it turns your Partner into your favourite sex Toy – enough said?

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In America You can grab a We Vibe 2 For only $99US  at EdenFantasys.com – you can also use the discount code N25 at the checkout to receive a further 15% discount on your purchases!

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Prices are all Current at Time Of Publication – & are obviously subject to change.

We Vibe 3?

I hope there will be a we vibe 3. There’s not much I don’t like about the We Vibe2 – but there is one thing I would change, I’m just not sure if it would be an Improvement or a hindrance?

However I’d love if it can with a remote control – I wish I could switch of the vibrations or alter their pattern whilst in use, which I sadly can’t manage to do without Interrupting the action. It would also make those out of the house adventures whilst wearing the We Vibe3 (?) even more exciting as he could ramp up the action at his desire.

Other than that all I can think of is that it would be great If it came pre charged – sadly that’s not really possible considering the length of time between manufacture and arriving in the consumer’s hands, but it’s something a geek could work on!

My Affiliations

Finally, In the spirit of trust & full transparency, I would like to let you know that I am an Affiliate with Adulttoyscorner.com.au where I earn a 10% commission on any products sold via links on my blog,

Commissions were not my purpose for this Post, I get the majority of visitors via links & search Engine searches related to the We Vibe – I had decided to do a 2nd write up about how great the We Vibe2 is, but when I saw how cheap it was I thought that it was a great time to tell you more about the best sex toy EVER whilst helping you get it for the cheapest Price Possible. If you have an issue with that feel free to go pay an awful lot more for it at some other site!

But if you want to support me – go ahead & fuck yourself – just use a link from my site!

Violet xx