This Week’s Questions
- What are your thoughts on anal sex? Have you ever had it?
- Do you enjoy watching porn with anal sex?
- If you’ve had anal sex, what was your first time like? If you haven’t had anal sex and want to, what do you hope for your anal sex experience?
- Do you own any sex toys for anal penetration? If not, do you want to?
- Do you always use condoms or do you sometimes allow bareback?
What are your thoughts on society’s negative views of anal sex?
1.What are your thoughts on anal sex? Have you ever had it?
I’m pretty open So my thoughts on Anal… Well I’m certainly open to it, but it’s certainly something that it up to the individual. I’d written it off for years & years before I decided to give it another go.
I’ve only ever had Anal with One partner, but there was over a decade between the first period of time I when was having Anal with him and the second time we tried, and since then I’ve lost count of the number of times we’ve done it. But the first time round it was rather painful to start with, probably because I was young, naive and doubt there was any lube involved. Second time round it’s all been intensely pleasurable because I knew exactly what I was doing & understood how it all worked thanks to Alexa and her blog the
EDIT: turns out that Alexa isn’t real, or that she was just the persona of a creept perv who was eventually caught for pretending to be this yound 20-something, lesbian, high class escort, sexual studies doctorate student. So she’s crap but the information that was on her site was influential and pretty factual, but now gone since the author was caught out!
Education & understanding how my body works as well as what’s going on when you have Anal made it so much easier. I look back on my initial foray into anal & think ‘how naive’ Would you go about giving birth without understanding the physical process? Anal’s so much easier & therefore fun if you know whats going on.
For more on the what, Where And How to’s of Anal check Out these three great Posts from the Aforementioned Alexa. Start out With Preparing for your first Anal; If I had of read this all those years ago before I even tried having Anal sex I doubt there would’ve been any pain, discomfort or worry of any kind. Wether you are male or female I recommend you read it, even if it is only so that you have a better understanding of how it all works. Guys if you like the idea of having Anal sex with a woman I suggest you bookmark it, It’s helped at least one of my mates to venture into previously uncharted territory.
Enema’s and More on Anal Sex is like the secondary level of your Anal education from Alexa
Even now, re-reading it after turning into a total butt slut, there’s much to learn on the subject and knowledge is power. What better power to have than sexual power, so even if you’ve been fucking your ass off for years you still just might learn something.These two are the Main Anal articles on her site, but there are plenty more Anal Sex Posts on her blog – If you want to try out Anal read as much as you can both on her site and others.
2.Do you enjoy watching porn with anal sex?
Yeah, I honestly do. But I enjoy anal immensely and I watch a lot of Double Penetration Porn, I guess because it’s number 1 on my Sexual Bucket List.
But it’s Also Anal Porn that bothers me the most. It is simply not safe to do ATM or Ass To Mouth, I hate that it makes it seem in anyway acceptable and that it gives some the impression that they can request to stick their dick in your mouth after it’s come out of your ass. Same goes with Vaginal sex after Anal. There’s all kinds of bacteria up your ass, stuff you really don’t want in your Vag, I can only imagine the kinds of infections that could lead to. If you want to do Anal then stick it in another hole, wrap that dick in a condom for fuck’s sake.
3. If you’ve had anal sex, what was your first time like? If you haven’t had anal sex and want to, what do you hope for your anal sex experience?
The very, very first time I had Anal was about 15 years ago when I was 16. I must admit it was painful and only slightly pleasurable. I was doing it because he wanted to. The thought of needing, let alone using lube never crossed my mind, If we had used lube I doubt it would’ve been painful. If I knew than what I know know in regards to Anal sex I’m sure it would’ve been a hit & there wouldn’t have been a decade & a half between Anal Adventures.
I was scared to try it after my son was born, sadly haemorrhoids often develop during pregnancy as well as during the pushing part of the birthing experience. I got off pretty lightly in that department, but still it was an issue in my mind (I’ve found my mind is sometimes my worst enemy when it comes to sexual pleasure)
I also suffer from Endometriosis, a condition where the lining of the uterus (the Endometrium) decides to take up residence in places it really shouldn’t. My case is on the extreme end with it gluing all my pelvic organs together and deciding to migrate to both my lungs and the inside of my rectum and bowel. Don’t ask me how the heck it gets in such places, I just know it’s there and it causes me all sorts of issues. I was really worried about tearing things that might be stuck together, but some logical thought made me realise if something can come out without tearing anything, surely something could go back in.
So with Education, Information, Awareness of my own body & the all important lube, second time round Anal has been nothing but an absolute joy.
4. Do you own any sex toys for anal penetration? If not, do you want to?
I do, I have a stunning crystal Delights Plug I scored out of my sister, and also really enjoy my Glass Wand for Anal Play. When it comes to Anal Play with sex toys the toy MUST have some sort of flared base to ensure that it doesn’t slip inside – which would lead you to an embarrassing trip to the hospital to have it removed. Similar warning regarding Large toys and Anal Play. Unlike the Vagina the Rectum Doesn’t really stretch. You can gradually stretch what feels comfortable being inserted, but it isn’t going to stretch in length. Respect that fact, and the fact that pain means something is not right and you shouldn’t have any problems.
5. Do you always use condoms or do you sometimes allow bareback?
In no way do I recommend or condone having un-safe sex, especially un-safe Anal sex as there is a higher risk of contracting an STD such as HIV via Anal sex than Vaginal Sex. However most often My Anal Adventures have all been bareback – but also with the same monogamous partner I was with for 15 years. If ever I were to have Anal, or any form of penetrative sex with someone else there would most certainly be a condom involved.
Second time round we were using condoms for Anal until I was comfortable with it (they seemed to cause less friction & discomfort on entry), but that soon ended. It’s also important to use condoms with sex toys used for Anal Play unless they are able to be fully disinfected and sterilised like glass.
What are your thoughts on society’s negative views of anal sex?
I don’t really give it much consideration to be truly honest.But maybe the fact that the vast majority see it as being so taboo that makes it even more alluring and of course fun.
If you Want more Info On Anal Other Articles that may be of interest or assistance include:
New To Anal Sex – on the Frisky Blog – This article on Anal includes important information regarding the two different sphincter muscles and how they work. Kind of important to Understand so you don’t go hurting yourself by trying to go to fast, or trying to insert anything too big.
And as much as it pains me to link to this site, they do have a rather good guide to Anal Sex Toys and Anal Play from the site that has become known for being the sex shop you can’t trust
Unless you are thinking about some full on Anal play I wouldn’t recommend you read this Article, but if you are looking to push your Anal Boundaries, this post could save you from serious damage & in extreme cases death. Sometimes Anal Play can go too far